Not too long ago, my partner and I were fighting a lot. I was upset because we weren’t spending enough time together. She was upset because she was too busy to spend any quality time with me without worrying about her studies. Our relationship suffered a great deal because of this. No amount of sweet talking or gifts could help the hurt. We both wanted and needed quality time and we weren’t getting it.
Whether you know it or not, you speak a certain “love language”. Dr. Gary Champman has written a book about the five different types in his book “The Five Love Languages”. I first heard about this book from a good friend of mine who encouraged me to get my partner and I to take the test. We both speak the same language (quality time) and when we don’t get that quality time together, our relationship suffers. You don’t need to speak the same love language as your partner in order to have a successful relationship, though. In fact, people are usually drawn to those who speak a different love language than their own.You just need to understand your partner’s language and the needs that come with that as much as you do your own.
Take the quiz here to find out what language you speak:
So, what’s your love language? The book is, admittedly, quite corny in some regards, especially with the wording Dr. Chapman uses. However, the knowledge is worth having, even putting up with reading corny quotes like “Boy, I sure do appreciate you doing the dishes tonight, dear!” It’s valuable to remember that, no matter what language you and your partner speak, demonstrating all 5 acts of love are important on a daily basis.