If you feel yourself anchored in the past, it’s time to let go. Some of us may feel powerless to let go of what is now behind us – relationships, friendships, a job, an opportunity missed. We may carry regret, shame or disappointment. This is a heavy burden for a person to carry. At any moment, you can let go of the past – who you’ve been or what you did – and decide to begin again. You can let go of the past and move onto a freer, happier future (and now).
5 tips for letting go
Stop rehashing: If you’re anything like me you will replay a scenario (or relationship) in your mind so much that you’d feel like ripping each hair on your head out individually would feel better. My advice? STOP. Easier said than done, right? But it’s the only way. When you find your mind going ‘there’…acknowledge it, recognize it and let it go. The more you remind yourself to stop over-analyzing – when these unwanted thoughts crop into your head – the sooner you will stop rehashing.
Write it out: Take pen to paper or fingers to keyboard and write, write, write. Get your feelings out in whatever way you can. Journaling has been cathartic for me. I can acknowledge my feelings, respect them by writing them out, and let them go.
Find your ‘thing’: Is there something you’ve always wanted to try but haven’t done so yet? Now’s the time to do it. In recent weeks, my ‘thing’ has been geocaching. I’ve spent hours doing it and each moment I spend doing it brings me so much happiness. Writing this blog is my ‘thing’, too. Both activities have given me something to do and feel productive while quietly moving away from the past.
Make new memories: Join a club. Meet like-minded people. Go out and do things you wouldn’t ordinarily do. Put yourself in a position of discovering and learning every day. You can put the past that makes you sad behind you when you’re creating joy in the now.
Be a friend: Reaching out to help others who are in need will make you feel better, too. You’ll stop ruminating over your past or feelings of loneliness when you reach out and help another who is in crisis or needs an ear or a shoulder to cry on.
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