We’ve talked about what a soul is. Covered what a soul group is and how we know if someone is part of ours. So what about soul mates? We all hear so much about having a soul mate and deep down, it’s what many of us long for. I touched on that a bit here: Signs you’ve met your soul mate.
The subject of soul mates is one of interest for lots of us. We’re curious about how and when we will meet our soul mate. We wonder if we’ve met her already without realizing it. Even the least spiritual/romantic of the bunch has something to say about soul mates.
Many people think that soul mate means the one you are predestined to be with forever; that a soul mate is your perfect fit. My definition of soul mate is not nearly as romantic. I think of a soul mate as a person who you do “soul work” with — someone who opens your eyes and life to new things, introduces you to a new side of you.
A true soul mate is the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings your “crap” to your attention so you can change and grow for the better. Soul work involves tackling issues, questions, problems and everything else head-on. It means not ignoring the elephant in the room or brushing things under the rug.
When you connect with a soul mate, there is the desire to work out your karmic issues in this lifetime and be happy together. If you enter into a romantic relationship with a soul mate in this lifetime, it’s important to do it with an open, loving heart. A soul mate tears down your barriers and awakens you on some level, revealing another layer of you.
In Eat, Pray, Love , Elizabeth Gilmore writes:
A soul mate’s purpose is to shake you up, tear apart your ego a little bit, show you your obstacles and addictions, break your heart open so new light can get in, make you so desperate and out of control that you have to transform your life…
Soul mate relationships can sometimes be painful. It’s important to see that whatever pain a soul mate causes you, it is done out of necessity for the growth of your soul. It’s to open your eyes to realizing that this person is just a reflection back to you of what is inside yourself.