Are your relationships verbs or nouns?

Are your relationships verbs or nouns?

by Lindsay on February 17, 2011

in Relationships, Souls, Synchronicity

Lovers don’t finally meet somewhere. They’re in each other all along. ~ Rumi

Photo credit:~shiya~ on flickr

Anyone of significance who has come into my life has come into it via synchronicity. I’ve bumped into people and formed meaningful friendships with them. I’ve met others in the most unexpected ways and found myself in romantic relationships with them. It is my belief that if you are meant to meet someone, you’re going to. And if you’re really meant to be with someone as part of a soul contract, there is an electrifying feeling upon meeting this person.

When you meet someone you have a soul contract with, you just feel it. It’s almost as if a part of you innately knows this person – many people would say it’s just a feeling of automatically clicking with that person.

There are several degrees to this click factor — with some people, we instantly find common interests. With others, we can bulldoze through the small talk and jump straight into personal topics. Then, there are a few souls we encounter throughout our lifetime, those we are drawn to like magnets. It’s a rare and treasured moment when you meet one of these souls and just “know” there is something under the surface. A lesson to be learned. A sacred love to be shared.

Some of these people come and teach us something and are gone quite quickly. But others are meant to be in our lives for the long-haul. We are ongoing evolutionary, in-process, growing beings. Wouldn’t it make sense to view our relationships in the same way?

As I listened to Robert Ohotto’s radio show last week, he said relationships are verbs, not nouns. What he had to say about it made a lot of sense to me. Robert says the healthiest relationships are born out of the sense that “we are in a verb dynamic with each other, not a noun.” In other words, you have to do things to make your relationship work. It’s not a thing so much as a series of actions Makes sense, right?

Photo credit: x376 on flickr

In all aspects of life, it’s the journey that is most important. We learn the most through walking the various paths we take on this journey we call life. Sure, we have destinations we are aiming for: a great job, a home, family, financial stability. But it’s the journey that our souls are interested in, not so much the destination. It’s the verbs, not the nouns, in other words.

Try to remain open to the discovery of the soul through your relationships as a process that is never finished. What sort of things  do you do to ensure that all of your relationships stay in verb-mode and aren’t just nouns?


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Jay February 17, 2011 at 9:04 pm

Your words: “it’s the journey that is most important”. – The photo says it all. Life’s journey, but also today’s journey with a supportive companion and with the reward of a beautiful view to share plus the comfort of a rest on the provided seat.

Lindsay February 17, 2011 at 9:54 pm

Absolutely, Jay. I love that photo. Pictures sometimes do speak a thousand words.

Marty February 25, 2011 at 7:39 pm

Married July 1988 so that makes 23 years married this year. I believe my wife and I have a deep respect for each other. We respect the life we share together and have contentment in that. Over the years we have learned about our differences and our trigger points that can cause conflict.

I’m having difficulty remembering the last time we had a serious row.

We have 3 children, 2 of who are now adults and are pretty well adjusted really.

For me, the secret is friends first along with a mutual respect for each others individuality. That allows harmony to occur. Some aspects link and some others don;t and that is just fine.

I think we are “doing” in our relationship…. at least I hope so!!!!

Lindsay February 26, 2011 at 10:10 am

Well, Marty, you and your wife are an inspiration! It sounds like you're both really self aware and not only that, but have found the keys to a successful long-term relationship. You guys rock!

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