Have you ever heard yourself saying, “Oh, he’s an Aries – I won’t ever date an Aries!”? Yeah? Well, you’re not alone. I’ve done it, too. Astrology is a topic many of us like, but most of us don’t fully understand. Even though we don’t understand it, we want to know: should we date a Sagittarius? Woo an Aquarius? Love a Libra? It’s just not that simple. We need to start looking at things with a different perspective when it comes to how we relate to each other and how we use Astrology.
Let’s start with what we are all familiar with — your sun sign: what does it even mean? It means that your life path, your developmental process of destiny is in many ways coordinated by the forces & archetypes within that sign. Whatever your sun sign is, it does not mean that is innately what you are. That is a complete myth. You can have qualities of that sign in your archetypal architecture, absolutely. But you are not innately your sun sign.
Your sun sign represents something you are growing into and growing toward as part of your destiny. So, when you are looking at who you want to be in a relationship with, it is so incredibly myopic to say “Oh, I am not going near a Scorpio – oh no. No way, no how. They are mean when they’re mad and have stingers that hurt.” When in reality, part of a Scorpio’s contract is to know and work with the emotional survival drives of the ego. They’re here to learn the emotional waterways of feeling and connection.
The next time you consider putting someone in a category based on their sun sign, think again. Instead, you can use the traits associated with that sign as a way of seeing what someone is growing toward. For example: a Cancer is here to work with the archetype of family: feeling safe, opening up the heart, learning how to connect and nurture and mother and caretake. That’s what it’s about, not a moody person (but oh yeah – there are moods) who never leaves the house.
The sun sign represents a force of movement into development.
People approach Astrology as a strategy of protecting vulnerability, which completely cuts off intimacy. If we say we’ll never be with a Sagittarius or all Aries people are too difficult then we are just, in a way, protecting ourselves.
Don’t strategize who you should or shouldn’t date based on their sun sign alone. To truly use Astrology, you have to see the whole birth chart to understand the different things going on with that person. Even then you use it as a tool to engage intuition; not as a way of categorizing them and boxing them into a certain category.
Astrology has been a hobby of mine for a while now and I’m opening up to the world of exploring our soul contracts using Intuitive Astrology as a baseline. Is there any interest amongst you readers for this type of information? If so, contact me to talk about doing a reading based on your birth chart or a compatibility (synergy) reading regarding a relationship (past, present or hopeful).