I remember my middle school years (and sometimes I wish I didn’t!) and how sometimes the girls in the class would pow-wow together and decide which girl was going to get the “cold shoulder” that day. I don’t remember much rhyme or reason to the selection process, but I do remember the feelings of knowing it was wrong and I also remember the feeling of being the dreaded chosen one for the day and having those so-called ‘friends’ ignore me all day long. Middle school is rough. But talking about the trials and tribulations of middle-school aged children or my raging unpopularity at that time in my life isn’t the point of this article.
The cold-shoulder, for those who were either too popular to be affected by this or aren’t from Central PA, is defined as “behaving towards someone in a way that is not at all friendly, sometimes for reasons that this person does not understand.”
If you’ve ever tried to communicate with your guides and you’re just not getting any answers, you’ve probably wondered if your guides are giving you this so-called ‘diss’. You might think you’re doing something wrong or not communicating with them in the proper way. Maybe you think that you’re not meditating long enough. You might even have the thought run through your head that you don’t have guides. That’s not true – you do!
If you feel like your guides are giving you the cold-shoulder, they’re not. The title of this article is a tad deceiving, because I don’t believe there is a time when your guides are intentionally ignoring you. BUT! If you feel like you haven’t had any success in your attempts at reaching out to your guides, here are a few tips:
- Relax: yeah, yeah. Easier said than done. But really, do yourself a big favor and stop being on high-alert waiting for your signs and answers all of the time. Believe it or not, you’re more likely to notice the signs and be open to the communication when you’re relaxed and not on edge waiting for it.
- Let go of your expectations: maybe you’re waiting for your guides to speak to you and you can actually hear it. Maybe you’re waiting for that special song on the radio – that one specific song that you must hear for validation. Hmmm…that’s pretty rigid thinking, isn’t it? A lot of times when we’re expecting one specific thing and we don’t get it, it leads to disappointment. Let go of your ideas of how things should be happening and be open to all possibilities.
- Think about what kind of person you are: Are you a thinker? A feeler? Someone who always has a tune playing through her head? Your guides know what kind of person you are and what kind of language you speak. If you are sensitive and feel deeply, it’s very likely that your guides are going to speak to you through emotions. You might not get that answer you’ve been waiting for in the form of a song on the radio (though you might!) – you’re more likely to get your answer in the form of a gut feeling. Same goes for if you’re a thinker…if an answer suddenly pops into your head; if you have an “Aha!” moment – take a moment and acknowledge that that could be the answer you’ve been waiting for from your guides.
- Don’t be afraid: I’ve heard from some readers who feel a bit tentative about reaching out to their guides. That’s understandable – if you can’t see, hear or touch them, it can sometimes feel a little intimidating. But guides are human souls who haven’t incarnated at this time. They’re just like we are, essentially. They have human thoughts & emotions. In fact, your spirit guide may very well be a soul you have shared a previous life (or lives!) with in the past. When I used to think of spirit guides, I considered mine to be some all-knowing entity who was somehow “above” me. A mystery. Some enchanting, mystical soul – the likes of whom I could never be like. Now I know she’s just kind of like a best friend who is always there. It takes away the intimidation factor.
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If you’re having trouble connecting with your guides, feel free to contact me for a spirit guide reading. I can usually get a name and always get a description of the guide and some message for you passed along. I can also give you some tips (directly from your spirit guides!) on how to improve your communications with them.
How do you communicate with your guides? Any cool stories to share with messages you’ve picked up from that that you weren’t expecting? What about the ones you were? How do the messages come through for you?
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