Last year, I wrote an article inspired by Danielle LaPorte about figuring out what we’re excellent at – what fires us up, what we naturally rock at – our genius. What’s Your Genius?
A couple of weeks ago Danielle published “What do you suck at?“. Just like we’re all awesome at some things, we all suck at stuff, too. That doesn’t mean we suck as people, but we can’t be good at everything. Danielle says:
When you cop to your shortcomings some wonderful things can happen. You become more accessible to the people around you, you invite other people to step up and shine, and you create space for support to come into your life — you actually don’t have to be awesome at everything. Go figure. Mostly, when you approve of your weaknesses, you give yourself permission to pursue your genius.
Things I suck at (in no particular order):
Math: One look at numbers and I freeze. I think my math comprehension stopped in or around 4th grade. I started really hating math around the 7th grade mark. But that might’ve had to do more with the fact that the substitute teacher we had smelled like hot dogs and a jack-ass jock used to pull me around by my ponytail in math class.
Cooking: You know how some people talk about how cooking and being in the kitchen is therapeutic? And you know how some people love throwing dinner parties and feel so pleased when they feed a group of friends/family? Yeah, I have no idea what that feels like. Being in the kitchen does the opposite to me: it stresses me out and I just pretty much hate it. I’ve tried everything: cooking with others, getting “creative” (adding salt when the recipe calls for pepper, for instance) and trying to find my “specialty”. Turns out my speciality is just doing the dishes after someone else has cooked. I can follow a recipe, but that doesn’t mean what I made will actually taste like it should.
Speaking up in work meetings: As an introvert, I do best when I’m given a question and have time to process it/think it through on my own and then share my ideas. I suck in meetings where everyone is brainstorming, speaking loudly (and sometimes over each other) and speaking every word that comes into their brains. Just not my thing. In the work environment, this often makes me look like I don’t have ideas or that I’m no good (especially working in Marketing & Communications) and that blows.
Giving directions: If you approach me on the street and ask me where such-and-such is and I tell you to make a left, please do yourself a favor and make a right. I am equally bad at reading maps.
Drawing (or almost anything artistic apart from writing): As with my math abilities, my rudimentary drawing ability appears to have halted at the elementary school level. Even my 5-year-old niece can draw a better stick figure than me.
Small talk: To me, it feels fake. And as a result, awkward. I loathe exchanging false “niceties” when there’s nothing else to talk about. That’s the introverted side of me. Let’s have a conversation that means something to us, or let’s not have a conversation at all.
Anything requiring eye/foot coordination: soccer, dancing (oh, lord)…anything that requires me to be fancy on my feet is going to equal a big, fat fail for me. And I’m learning to be okay with that.
The point of this exercise is to demonstrate the things that bother us, the things that make us feel “less than”, can actually help us pinpoint where our true strength lies.I might suck at those I listed above, but I’m pretty good at a lot of other things. Other people can be good at what I suck at – diversity is what makes the world go ’round!
When we put our weaknesses in plain language and clear view, we can see where we need to become more conscious, and how our so-called “shortcomings” point to our true strengths.
What do you suck at? Share some of your weaknesses with us here in the comments!
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