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Okay, I’ll admit it. I used to think the whole idea of “twin flames” was a bunch of hogwash. Yeah – the woman who talks about spirit guides and soul mates, reincarnation and energy healing thought something related to these topics sounded…a little bit (or a lot) made up. That is, until I met mine. When my world completely changed because of a simple email (and subsequent texts) from my twin flame/soul; when I connected with another person on every level in ways I never knew possible, I realized that maybe it isn’t a load of BS, after all. Sometimes we have to live something to truly believe it.

A twin flame transcends beyond just a ‘soul mate’. A soul mate is a person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings your “crap” to your attention so you can change and grow for the better. Soul work involves tackling issues, questions, problems and everything else head-on. It means not ignoring the elephant in the room or brushing things under the rug.

When you connect with a soul mate, there is the desire to work out your karmic issues in this lifetime. Soul mates can be anyone – a friend, a lover, a sibling or a child. If you enter into a romantic relationship with a soul mate in this lifetime, it’s important to do it with an open, loving heart. A soul mate tears down your barriers and awakens you on some level, revealing another layer of you. 

A twin flame is a mirror of you – someone you are energetically tied to and can feel, long before you even know of their existence . It is someone you share an undeniable connection with that can be felt mind, body and soul, whether you are sitting next to each other or are miles away.

Your twin flame, or twin soul, is a person who you are destined to feel connected to on a physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual level. Your twin flame represents your ultimate friend, lover or teacher in this life. He or she is the catalyst of your spiritual growth and the mirror of your deepest desires, needs, and fears. Your twin flame will reflect back to you all of your inner shadows, but also your deepest beauty and greatest strengths. In this way, your twin flame helps you to access tremendous emotional, psychological, and spiritual growth.

So, how do you know you’ve met your twin flame (or twin soul, whichever term you are most comfortable with) and not “just” a soul mate?

1. Instant bond

When you’ve met your twin flame/twin soul, the bond is immediate. You feel as though you’ve found the one you’ve been looking for. You find yourself instantly comfortable, as if you’ve arrived “home” in their presence. In my case, I spent most of my adult life with a distant, yet gnawing feeling that something was missing. Soon after I met my twin flame, I realized that feeling that I’d carried with me my entire life was gone. Of course, that feeling of being “at home” can also happen when you meet a soul mate. So how else can you distinguish a soul mate from a twin flame?

2. Telepathy

You are naturally telepathic with each other. You can hear each other think sometimes, and often finish each other’s sentences.  You can do this whether you’re sitting next to each other in the same room or if you’re 1400 miles apart. Simply put: you are tuned into each other’s energy. You are both conscious of the other person’s emotional well-being and are empathic with one another without much (or any) effort.

3. Eye contact

Typically when we make eye contact with someone, we turn away after a few seconds. With your twin flame, you can keep eye contact for what feels like “forever” without feeling any awkwardness. They say eyes are the gateway to the soul, and because your twin flame’s soul is reflecting part of you back at you, you can easily look into their eyes for long  periods of time. You may find it difficult to keep your eyes off of each other beyond just physical attraction/lust.

4. Authenticity/being your true self

When you’ve met your twin soul, you are able to be the true version of yourself – even the parts you don’t like or would never dare show to another person. You know those parts you try to hide from others for fear of being vulnerable or unwanted or rejected? You share them; you share those parts with this person without fear of rejection or judgment from them. They don’t try to change you – they accept and love you for who you are. They support your growth and journey and encourage you to be the ‘best’ version of yourself you can be without trying to change who you are to fit their own needs.

5. Unconditional love & out-of-this world passion

Typically, we reserve unconditional love for our children and pets. When you’ve found your twin flame, you find yourself loving them unconditionally, even if they haven’t “earned” it (in this lifetime). You know with conviction that you will have undying love for this person across all space and time, no matter what happens between the two of you.

The passion is mind-blowing and makes you wonder if what you felt in the past with other loves was even passion at all.

6. Shared sense of purpose

Twin souls often feel a shared purpose. As if their relationship is meant to create something or do something for the world/universe. There is a sense that you are meant to accomplish things together – that there is a purpose for your union that goes beyond just the two of you.

7. Intense emotions

Everything is intensified with your twin flame. Every emotion feels “extra” and everything you feel – good and bad – feels incredibly strong, at times overwhelming. Twin flame relationships help you work through – and remove – your baggage, and sometimes this doesn’t come easy. You  may find that you feel things so deeply that sometimes it is hard to find words to describe it. But because you have that whole “finely tuned into each other” thing going on, you often don’t need words.

8. Separation of some kind

Twin flames are often separated either by distance (in my case) or have periods of time where they separate from each other because one or both isn’t ready for the relationship. Not everyone is ready to dive to the depths of their soul, to work through their “stuff” —and sometimes, no matter how our hearts feel, it is easier to run away. Typically, twin souls do have a reunion (or reunions) and come together again after a period of separation, whether by choice or by geographic location.

9. Chakra vibrations/shared energy

You may feel a vibration or a pull in one or more of your chakras – usually the heart chakra –  when you are together. You can genuinely feel each other, even when you are not touching. There have been hugs I’ve shared with my twin flame where I can absolutely feel the energy exchange between our two heart chakras. It starts as a ‘tingly’ feeling in my chest and emanates warmth throughout my entire body. When you share this kind of connection with your twin soul, it is felt most intensely when you are together in the physical but you can also connect with them energetically no matter how many  miles are between you.

10. Repeating numbers and patterns

You may find that certain numbers seem to “follow” you around. The numbers may be significant dates or repeated numbers/patterns. For me, these repeated pattern numbers have been 333 and 1111. These numbers may mean something significant to you, your twin soul or have new shared meaning as you come together.

11. “Knowing” you are meant to be together

Feeling of belonging together, feeling of being two halves or a part of the same being. My twin soul and I often say we are from the “same star”. Now that I have her, I no longer feel that empty gnawing I used to carry within me, but we are currently separated by distance. When you’ve met your twin soul, you will know beyond a shadow of a doubt that you are made for each other; there will be no questioning, no insecurities or questions about it. You will know, and you will feel as secure about each other as any two people can feel.

And that’s just it: A twin flame connection is the ultimate romantic pairing of two souls. And since I’ve met mine, I’ve discovered something else that I used to think was trite and canned that I’ve found to be true: when you know, you know.

Interested in a relationship reading to learn more about why you and your twin flame or soul mate have come together in this lifetime? Visit my relationship readings page to learn more.

With your twin flame, everything feels magnified, intensified. Everything feels better. With your twin flame, everything feels magnified, intensified. Everything feels better.

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Children of the Dirt

by Lindsay on February 10, 2015

in Inspiration, Relationships

My parents were here in Toronto visiting this past weekend, and it was so wonderful to have my home filled with love and family and laughter. When they left yesterday and my daughter and I came home to an empty house, I sat down and cried; I felt so alone. My family all lives a 5-6 hour drive away. I’m single. Yes, I have my daughter. I also have an incredible network of friends I see often, with whom I share love & life, and I’m forever grateful. But sometimes? Sometimes I feel lonely. 

Have you ever felt so lonely you were certain you were the loneliest person in the world? I have a story to share with you that may (dare I say will) change your perspective.

The story is by Simon Rich and it’s called “The Children Of The Dirt.” You can listen to him tell it on NPR’s Invisibilia Podcast here.

According to Aristophanes, there were originally three sexes:

  • the children of the Moon who were half-male and half-female;
  • the children of the Sun who were fully male;
  • and the children of the Earth, who were fully female.

Everyone had four legs, four arms and two heads, and spent their days in blissful contentment. Zeus became jealous of the humans’ joy so he decided to split them all in two.

Aristophanes called this punishment the “origin of love”, because ever since, the children of the Earth, Moon and Sun have been searching the globe in a desperate bid to find their other halves. Aristophanes’ story is incomplete because there was also a fourth sex – the children of the Dirt.

Unlike the other three sexes, the children of the dirt consisted of just one half. Some were male and some were female and each had just two arms, two legs and one head.

The children of the dirt found the children of the Earth, Moon and Sun to be completely insufferable. Whenever they saw a two-headed creature walking by, talking to itself in baby-talk voices, it made them want to vomit. They hated going to parties and when there was no way to get out of one, they sat in the corner, too bitter and depressed to talk to anybody. The children of the dirt were so miserable that they invented wine and art to dull their pain. It helped a little, but not really. When Zeus went on his rampage he decided to leave the children of the dirt alone. “They’re already screwed”, he explained.

Present Day 

  • Happy gay couples descend from the children of the Sun;
  • Happy lesbian couples descend from the children of the Earth;
  • Happy straight couples descend from the children of the Moon.

But the vast majority of humans are descendants of the children of the dirt. And no matter how long they search the earth, they’ll never find what they’re looking for because there’s nobody for them, not anybody in the world.

Did that last sentence sink in? In this story, the vast majority of humans are descendants of the children of the dirt. So what does that mean? Even if you’re buried deep in your loneliness, you are not alone. And in fact, there is someone for you  all of the other children of the dirt who long for companionship, friendship and love, too.

In our loneliness, we often feel like there’s no one around who will understand us, or love us, or want to hug us, or go out for lunch with us, or any other number of “lonely person” thoughts that can eat away at us. You may think of yourself as “different from the others”. But you’re not, not at the core. We all long to connect. We all have human hearts put on this earth to love and be loved. And guess what? We all – even those surrounded by others – feel lonely sometimes.

So the next time you feel lonely, ask yourself what it would it take to help you feel less alone. I have a suggestion: Reach out to someone – an email, a smile for a stranger on the street, conversation with the grocery store clerk, call up an old friend you haven’t spoken to in a year. You may be connecting with a fellow “Child of the Dirt” and be reminded that indeed, we’re all connected, always, even in our loneliness.


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Cobwebs & Changes

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If a website could collect cobwebs, The Daily Awe would be covered in them. There have been many times that I’ve contemplated blogging here, but either forgot, got distracted or didn’t feel inspired enough to hit ‘publish’. I keep a fairly active Facebook page where I post quite a bit, but only a very small number of you are […]

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Soulful Parenting – a review and a giveaway

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When your intuition fails you

March 20, 2014

Last weekend, friends of mine were discussing the Year Ahead Readings I’d done for them for 2014. We’re well into March, and much of what their readings said have come to fruition. Toot toot! My friend Laura asked me if I’d done a reading for myself, to which I responded, “No. I can’t do readings for […]

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Where is my soulmate?

February 14, 2014

It’s February – the month of love. The month of chocolates, flowers, mushy cards and other expressions of affection for that special someone.  It’s also the month in which The Daily Awe gets the most people visiting, wishing and longing for their soul-mate and wondering where he or she is. Someone recently came to the site after searching, “I’m […]

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Planning your next life: the good, the bad and the painful

January 16, 2014

If you’ve ever been hurt, betrayed, abused, devastated or disappointed…you’re human. And you might have agreed to the event before you were born. Caroline Myss says when we’re ready to come into a new life, we make our soul plans, map out our soul contracts and agreements, and prepare as much as possible for what lies […]

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When things don’t go as planned

December 15, 2013

Last year at this time, I was 36+ weeks pregnant, about to go on my year-long maternity leave to take care of my soon-to-be-born daughter. I had visions of how we would spend our days: lots of cuddles, reading, swimming lessons, music. During Evelyn’s naps, I planned to do as much work for The Daily […]

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