Caroline Myss says when we’re ready to come into a new life, we make our soul plans, map out our soul contracts and agreements, and prepare as much as possible for what lies ahead in the coming lifetime. Then as we descend onto the physical plane, our angel is yelling behind us, “But you’re not going to remember any of this!”
Picturing that totally makes me smile, because I feel it in my heart to be true. We might not remember exactly what we planned to do and learn in this lifetime, but becoming conscious of and understanding our soul contracts can make a world of a difference in the way we navigate through life. By acknowledging the soul agreements and plans we’ve made, we can let go of anger, blame, betrayal, guilt and shame. We can replace those feelings with peace, contentment and even love.
Do you ever ask yourself any of these questions:
- Why did this happen to me?
- Why was I treated this way?
- Why did my parents abuse me?
- What did I do to deserve this?
- Why did that boyfriend/partner/friend treat me no better than yesterday’s trash?
- Why do I have such a hard time making friends?
- Was I terrible in a past life and now it’s catching up to me?
Guess what? You can take back the power in these situations. Yes, you can.
If you had a shitty childhood, know that you certainly didn’t do anything – not in this lifetime or any others – to deserve that kind of treatment. I don’t believe karma works that way. But you most likely agreed, on a soul level, to experience that, to go through it.
Maybe the lesson isn’t even yours – maybe it’s more for the other person, the person who mistreated you. Maybe the lesson is for both of your souls to evolve somehow. You know why on a soul level, and you’ll remember when your are finished with this incarnation, during your Life Review.
Truthfully, I think looking for the “why” in most of these crappy situations just leads to frustrations. We may not ever get the “why” while we’re here, it may only make sense on a higher level – a soul level. Sometimes there is just no comprehensible justification for the physical and emotional pain we endure. But on the spiritual plane, we experience these things for a purpose, and we can understand.
Why we don’t remember
If we had full knowledge of our soul contracts, remembered all of our previous lives and knew what was ahead of us, that awareness would be completely overwhelming. We’d be virtually paralyzed by all of the past life issues & fears, all the considerations, and all of the memories. Our bodies and brains just aren’t meant to remember that, aren’t equipped to handle it.
Albert Einstein once said:
There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.
And he was right. Every physical experience we have: the good, the bad, the ugly and the painful…it’s all a miracle in our soul’s eyes.