Planning your next life: the good, the bad and the painful

Planning your next life: the good, the bad and the painful

by Lindsay on January 16, 2014

in Personal Growth

Screen shot 2013-02-06 at 9.41.51 PMIf you’ve ever been hurt, betrayed, abused, devastated or disappointed…you’re human. And you might have agreed to the event before you were born.

Caroline Myss says when we’re ready to come into a new life, we make our soul plans, map out our soul contracts and agreements, and prepare as much as possible for what lies ahead in the coming lifetime. Then as we descend onto the physical plane, our angel is yelling behind us, “But you’re not going to remember any of this!”

Picturing that totally makes me smile, because I feel it in my heart to be true. We might not remember exactly what we planned to do and learn in this lifetime, but becoming conscious of and understanding our soul contracts can make a world of a difference in the way we navigate through life. By acknowledging the soul agreements and plans we’ve made, we can let go of anger, blame, betrayal, guilt and shame.  We can replace those feelings with peace, contentment and even love.

Do you ever ask yourself any of these questions:

  • Why did this happen to me?
  • Why was I treated this way?
  • Why did my parents abuse me?
  • What did I do to deserve this?
  • Why did that boyfriend/partner/friend treat me no better than yesterday’s trash?
  • Why do I have such a hard time making friends?
  • Was I terrible in a past life and now it’s catching up to me? 

Guess what? You can take back the power in these situations. Yes, you can. 

If you had a shitty childhood, know that you certainly didn’t do anything – not in this lifetime or any others – to deserve that kind of treatment. I don’t believe karma works that way. But you most likely agreed, on a soul level, to experience that, to go through it.

Maybe the lesson isn’t even yours – maybe it’s more for the other person, the person who mistreated you. Maybe the lesson is for both of your souls to evolve somehow. You know why on a soul level, and you’ll remember when your are finished with this incarnation, during your Life Review.

Truthfully, I think looking for the “why” in most of these crappy situations just leads to frustrations. We may not ever get the “why” while we’re here, it may only make sense on a higher level – a soul level. Sometimes there is just no comprehensible justification for the physical and emotional pain we endure. But on the spiritual plane, we experience these things for a purpose, and we can understand.

Why we don’t remember 

If we had full knowledge of our soul contracts, remembered all of our previous lives and knew what was ahead of us, that awareness would be completely overwhelming. We’d be virtually paralyzed by all of the past life issues & fears, all the considerations, and all of the memories. Our bodies and brains just aren’t meant to remember that, aren’t equipped to handle it.

Albert Einstein once said:

There are only two ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle.

And he was right. Every physical experience we have: the good, the bad, the ugly and the painful…it’s all a miracle in our soul’s eyes.

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Tatiana January 16, 2014 at 8:29 am

There’s this great giant book called Cosmic Cradle and it’s about toddlers and young children remembering how they were born and choosing their life/parents before they came. Many of the kids recounted being with another spirit – an entity who worked specifically with people to pick their life lessons – and just making their life. Haha.

I think I mentioned it to you before, but it’s a pretty nifty idea. This is something I’ve just sort of accepted as true since I saw/see it in all sorts of metaphysical circles. And there seems to be enough evidence to support the idea, so I just went with it. But in my personal life, I have a hard time seeing a bigger picture. I see lots of paradoxes, things don’t line up or make sense, and I wonder why I would choose A when I feel more like B?

I really dislike this idea that my life was merely a gateway for my parents’ karmic and soul lessons, versus a way for me to grow specifically. I feel having them as my parents stunted me, and I’d be so much further along in my growth had they not been my parents. Had my parents been able to learn and deal with their own lessons, things would be so much different. :/

So… I’m not sure! I think it’s a nice idea but I don’t often feel as if I have much purpose for being here. So it would be nice to remember WHY I chose to incarnate when I feel as if I’d be so much happier as a rock or a tree branch.

Michelle January 17, 2014 at 12:43 am

Tatiana, your comments remind me of my younger self… I decided if I ever had children that I’d be more understanding and patient and kind…and well be better at parenting than they were. As I’ve aged and had children of my own I realise just how wonderful my parents really are, and I have been blessed to have made it unscathed through life this far (with lots of help from them and my grandparents !). I often wonder about the soul contracts with my own children, why on earth would they choose me ? I consider myself not half the parent my mum and dad are! Will my children ever feel blessed to have me as a parent? I think all soul contracts are reciprocal, each person is bound to try and do their best with the little that they have to give, there are just so many lessons to learn for each of us through any one of our relationships with those in our lives and if things don’t work out as planned then there’s a myriad of other lifetimes and experiences we can share. I secretly hope though that I’ll get it right with at least one of my soul contracts at some point ??? Lol

Mari January 17, 2014 at 8:52 pm

My 19 year old son Danny, left this Earth from complications of Leukemia. Four years after that, my only surviving son Ricky took his life at age 28. Was this really a pre life plan?

Robert Schwartz wrote a book about this subject. “COURAGES SOULS”.


God bless

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